Hello, friend. I have a question for you today that is simultaneously not rhetorical, a real question, and rhetorical. I was thinking about this while I was on my run because of course I was on my run and oh my gosh. Okay, so I am, I am gonna ask you the question eventually. You already saw it. It's the podcast title.
It's "What Are You Going To Do When You Finish Getting Your Goal?" But I want to tell you about my run and about how this podcast almost did not happen today. I... I am in the middle of, and yes, you heard me take a big, deep sigh. Oh my gosh, that tells you everything you need to know about how I feel right now. I feel very beleaguered and I just realized that I didn't turn off my watch.
So let me actually do a little bit of, a little bit of beeping right here. I am in the middle of renovating the garage and it's not just me, it's actually my husband's project, but you may or may not know if you've been listening to the Newly Renovated Get Your Goal podcast, that my podcast studio is in my garage.
I absolutely [00:01:00] love the setup that I have. I have sound dampening walls that are flexible and so they're, I think they're like eight feet long and I have two of them. So it goes around in a circle that would have therefore a circumference. I had to think about the word, a circumference of about 16 feet.
So it's cozy. I mean, it's a tiny little space. You may or may not have seen, I think I've only made like one video that's on YouTube and one little short reel on Instagram that, um, has my neon sign in the background. I bought a neon sign that says, get your goal, and it's hot pink, and I absolutely love it.
And the chair that I sit on in my podcast studio is Blossom's old chair. If you are familiar with me from YouTube, and if you're not, that's completely okay. But if you are familiar with me from YouTube for years I was a fitness and weight loss coach, and I used to do follow along workout videos. I don't do that anymore.
I stopped doing that in, oh my gosh, 2022. It's been almost three years, y'all. [00:02:00] So crazy. So crazy, 'cause simultaneously feels like yesterday and also a million years ago, a different lifetime ago. But anyways, I used to have this sweet little dog named Blossom and she used to come out and sit with me and the chair was, you know, on camera in my workout room.
And so I always refer to it as Blossom's chair and it's kind of funny because my cats actually used to sit in that chair. Not my current cats, but my old cats, Rosy and Agatha used to sit in that chair way more than Blossom. It's just that Blossom always sat in that chair on camera, so it became Blossom's chair.
In any event, I love my podcast studio. It's so cozy, it's so comfy, and it is completely disassembled right now because we are renovating the garage. Our garage has historically been something of a mess. And I say that with love. We have never really put up like cohesive shelving or gotten bins for all of the stuff.
So there's just a lot of [00:03:00] things in our garage. And my husband actually uses the garage. Like he's a mechanic. He is a handyman. He doesn't do that by trade, but he's, he's very good with tools. He's good with his hands. He knows how to fix things. We have an old car that he is working on. So anyways, so we're renovating the garage after many, many years of talking about it.
I'm super excited about the project and also if you have ever renovated, you know what this feels like. You go from this, like this place in your house or your garage that feels like, well, you know, it's kind of a mess, but it's ours and it's fine. And then when you decide to renovate, you make such a bigger mess getting everything out of all of the nooks and the crannies.
And yes, I'm hearing myself, this is such a perfect either metaphor or analogy. I never remember which one is the right word, but you think you're kind of a mess and you're like, well, but it's a mess I can live with. And then you decide, no, you know what? I'm actually going to renovate, I'm going to change.
I'm going to get [00:04:00] my goal. And the, when you first start everything feels even messier. So that's the part of the project that we're in right now. My podcast studio is completely disassembled and I am having so much resistance to it, which is also really appropriate for our conversation about getting your goals.
You decide, okay, I'm gonna change my mindset. I'm gonna start journaling. Hey, this girl that I like from YouTube has this Daily 3 thing where she's teaching me how to journal, and you're welcome to go watch the masterclass and learn all about the journaling framework. That was my plug. And then, and then you realize oh my gosh. I have a lot of really unhelpful thoughts in my head. I have a lot of mindset blocks. This is actually really hard. I had no idea this was going to be so difficult. I know, I hear you. So anyways, I went out for my run this morning and I had so much resistance. I was just like, well now, I can't even podcast.
Which I don't think I said it quite that dramatically out loud. It was definitely that dramatic in my head. I knew I wanted [00:05:00] to though, and this is the thing, I do, very much enjoy these post run rambles. I very much enjoy podcasting. This is entirely unrelated to our topic, but I am kind of considering, and I am reluctant to commit to such a thing except for the fact that it's even less of a commitment than I have right now.
I am considering not having a podcasting schedule. I know it's really nice to have a schedule. I know it's really nice to say, oh my gosh, on Wednesdays, Pahla's gonna have a podcast. But I tell you what, there are some weeks when I could put out like two or even three podcasts. Like, I've got you on my mind, I'm thinking about you.
I wanna talk to you, I wanna help you get your goal, and I wanna tell you, you know, about these concepts or about this thing that you may have noticed and how you can work through it. Like sometimes you are so much on my mind that I could easily put out more than one podcast. And also, and here's where the [00:06:00] reluctance comes in.
Sometimes, sometimes I do intentionally set out for my run thinking, Hey, I want to podcast, so let's, let's actually ideate and then create. It's not willpower, which is something we are gonna talk about today. It is, it is asking myself very intentionally to do something and to tap into my creative energy in a way that is not
I'm gonna say fully organic. That doesn't make it bad. I still have that creative energy. I am here openhearted, so ready to talk to you about this topic today because it did come to me. I did ask myself to come up with a topic and now here I am recording. So anyways, here's where I was going with this. I am thinking about simply recording when I record and uploading when I upload and letting all of this feel
even more organic and even more like me. This is [00:07:00] something I am really working through right now in my own life, in my own business, about making it the most me. And that really is a perfect segueway into what we are talking about today. The real part of the question what are you going to do when you finish getting your goal?
And I actually legitimately want you to, after I tell you a little bit more about this question, pause the podcast and actually answer this question for yourself. Because when you answer this question for yourself, the second half, or well probably won't be half and half, but the second part of the podcast where we dive into like the mindset and the concepts and what to do and how to do it kind of a thing is gonna make so much more sense.
Right now you have a goal. You have a goal, and that is something that you want. And it's probably, hopefully pretty specific. I mean, over the years I have definitely come down with the hammer, like you have to know exactly what you want and it has to have numbers, and you need to be very clear and you need to have parameters on it, and it [00:08:00] needs to be like fixed.
Otherwise it's like a GPS and you don't know where you're going. Yes, and there's a thing that you want. And there's also a thing that you want from that thing. Here's what I mean. You might currently have a goal in mind, like, I want to weigh whatever. I want to cross the finish line of a 5K. I want to write a book, I want to have a business.
Something along those lines. Those are excellent goals. I highly encourage you to have goals that are tangible like that, and this question of what are you going to do after you get your goal really informs you about what you want from that goal. There are people, lots of people, many, many, [00:09:00] many, many people who want to run, let's say a marathon, simply to prove that they can.
Therefore, they run one marathon and then, I mean, maybe they run again, maybe they don't. Maybe it's just like a thing they did, and then they're perfectly happy to go onto some other kind of goal. There are plenty of people who want to write a book just to prove they can just because they know they have a book in them.
It's super exciting to get it out of them. And then, you know what, that was kind of it like, lemme go ahead and go on with my life and do something else. There are plenty of people who want to like start a business just to see what it feels like. And let me tell you something. Entrepreneurship, not for the faint of heart, but there are people who want to do something
once. I have zero judgment about that, I honestly truly believe that that is a very specific and [00:10:00] unique and interesting type of goal getting personality. And if that is you, then this question actually still applies to you. And it's very interesting to think about what it is you want after you've gotten your goal. If you want very much to go onto a different kind of goal,
it is so good to know that. Partly because, I mean, no matter what kind of a goal you get literally half of the people in your life are gonna be like, so when are you gonna do that again? And it's so funny to me, even with weight loss, like, oh, well, most of the time with weight loss, people say it in such a, a snotty way.
Like, well, you'll probably gain it back. So you're gonna just do that again. Anyways, when you know what you're going to do after you get your goal, here's where we come into the mindset concept part of it. [00:11:00] The thing that you want from the thing that you want is very likely some self-concept. You want to run
a 5K or a 50 K or a whatever, k, so that you can think about yourself as a person who is a runner. You want to write a book so that you can write another book because you want to be an author. You want to lose weight, so you can be a person who is done losing weight. You want to run a business so you can be a person who creates success for yourself on your own terms.
Now whether or not those specific words actually resonate with you, that's kind of not the point, and it's why I want you to really pause the podcast and think about what you want after you finish getting your goal so that you can hear the self-concept. I am a person who, I'm a person who runs. I'm a [00:12:00] person who writes books, plural.
I'm a person who never worries about their weight. I'm a person who runs a successful business. I am a person who. That right there, my love, is the self-concept that you are on your way to your goal, working to change. And the way to do that, here comes the plug for the Daily 3. The, the way you change a self-concept really is by understanding
what the self-concept is, understanding what it is you think is blocking you from it. And I mean that literally. You are currently thinking things. You have thoughts in your head that are mindset blocks. They sound like real obstacles. They sound like actual circumstances, actual facts. I promise you they are not.
This is the the metacognitive part of the daily three, which by the way, just super quickly, let me share with you the Daily 3 [00:13:00] journaling formula. Future self journaling where you imagine your future self with the goal that you want. And let me actually get lost in the weeds a tiny bit here because future self journaling, the way I explain it, like the official explanation is to think of, you know, the big picture you with your goal.
I personally, in my own Daily 3 practice, do that on both a micro and macro level. I think about myself with the goal, but I also think about myself today, like what do I want to do today on my way to the goal. What do I wanna do this week on my way to that goal? What do I wanna do this month on my way to that goal? I like to break it down into lots of little pieces, not just the big picture.
You are absolutely welcome to use future self journaling in whatever way makes the most sense for you. Metacognitive journaling is really metacognition. Thinking about your thoughts, understanding that your thoughts are thoughts, and taking the time to break your current emotional [00:14:00] resonance with those thoughts by feeling the feelings they create. When you feel the feeling of
a mindset block, you release it from your life. The third part of the Daily 3 journaling or journaling framework is success journaling. Taking the time to take credit for what you are currently doing and watching it add up and stepping gently because this is the hardest work. Stepping gently into the self concept of the person who has your goal. It's why it's important to know
what you want after you finish getting your goal, so that you know what self-concept you are aiming for. And here is the, the actual rhetorical part of that question. The truth of it is that what you will [00:15:00] do after you finish getting your goal is exactly what you've been doing to get your goal. And I say that as a word of warning, that right now, while you are on your way to getting your goal, it's really a great time to notice
where you are doing things from willpower, where you are doing things from self-discipline, where you are doing things from obligation, where you are doing things from a place of I don't trust myself, so I have to do it this exact way, or a place of, I can't wait to be done with this. When you notice yourself, and I notice I said "when." Love, me too.
Lemme tell you. Lemme tell you the story about how I lost weight from absolute 100% willpower and didn't realize it, and was offering all y'all all kinds of weight loss advice [00:16:00] that really corroborated a lot of my own mindset blocks. The way that I used to talk about weight loss was simply have a routine, like do the same thing every single day in, in ways that make sense for you.
I mean, I've always, lemme step back from that. I've always, always, always, always. As a person who needs to reinvent the wheel all the time, I've always put forth any advice I've given as, Hey, here's, here's a way to think about it, and you are going to have to manipulate this in your own way to really make it work for you to really make it stick for it to really be your own thing.
And here's how I made this work. Do the same thing every day so you don't have to think about it. To me, that felt insanely easy and I really offered that up as though as though it had the nature of being easy. Well come to find out, working with hundreds and then thousands of women, ain't no such thing as [00:17:00] easy for everybody.
There is truly no such thing as a strategy that works for everybody. We all, all of us, every single one of us are the most beautiful, unique, and lovely snowflakes that have our own mindset blocks and our own mindset super highways. So I used to offer this advice like, oh, it's so easy to do the same thing.
Well come to find out that doing the same thing that I thought was actually me not really trusting myself to make spontaneous decisions in the moment every minute of every day that actually benefited me. I really had a lot of diet thinking and it's so fascinating to me getting out of that diet thinking to really hear how [00:18:00] at the time, it definitely felt like a mindset super highway, and let me, let me pull this apart a little bit.
Even though we're not really talking about weight loss, it is a topic that I can talk about a lot. No matter what you do on your way to your goal, there will be things that feel simple to you that you can finish untangling whenever you finish untangling them. Ultimately. Ultimately, I believe that every single one of us wants to be us.
You want to be you in a way that feels amazing, and sometimes you will have strategies that feel good enough that you don't realize that they are a little bit of discipline, a little bit of willpower, a little bit of, I don't quite trust myself here [00:19:00] until later. I am, I'm never offering you that what you're doing is wrong.
Let's, let's be very clear about that. No matter what you're doing, you're doing it right, you're doing it the way you are right now. There's no such thing as doing it wrong, and you are welcome to pull things apart when it makes sense to pull them apart. When I was losing weight I felt great. I felt really good about what I was doing.
I felt really good about offering that advice to you, especially for the people that had the same kind of mindset super highways I did. That creating a routine for yourself where you're just relaxing into doing the same things every day felt good for a lot of people. And for those of you that that never felt amazing for, I really do apologize for offering it up as though it was the way to lose weight.[00:20:00]
There was a part of me that understood that the right way is always your way, and I, I know I said it, but I don't know if I said it enough and I'm saying it now so that you can really hear it now, so that you can really set yourself free to be you. And sometimes, sometimes being you feels a little scary, which could be why some goals are easier to get and some goals are harder to get.
When you find the mindset super highways like I did with weight loss, that felt good enough. No, it wasn't really a hundred percent me honoring myself and trusting myself and over the course of the last several years since I finished losing weight, I've really had the opportunity to untangle that. I've really had the opportunity to look at myself and see where routines feel good and where they [00:21:00] feel like, I don't know if I'd really trust myself.
This is actually kind of the conversation that we had about the podcast today. I 100% trust myself to speak to you when I want to speak to you. And, and there's a part of me that thinks that having that routine, oh, the podcast comes out every Wednesday, could help me. My work right now is to examine that little bit of reluctance, that little bit of, but what if
I don't do what I say I wanna do. What if I quote unquote, can't trust myself to put out the podcast? This is, if you choose to accept it, your work on your way to getting your goal. This is the work that I'm doing on my way to my business goal with the [00:22:00] Daily 3. I'm really seeing a vision every day that's getting clearer and clearer,
the more I practice seeing it, of me running my business in a way that feels like complete relaxation, complete 100% self trust. Only doing things I want to do. And that sounds huge, doesn't it? Like, like a big promise, like no, you have to do things you don't wanna do. Everybody knows this, but what if that's not true?
What if you and I can get our goals by being 100% ourselves and doing things all of the things in a way that actually feel good? Never making ourselves do something because we think we have [00:23:00] to. Like your brain is exploding with that right now, right? Mine too. I know. I know. That is my vision of future me running my business in a way that feels amazing.
And my work on the way there is to untangle all of the things that are exploding in my brain right now. Like I'm actually sorry for the long pause there. I'm like hearing a couple of things like I can't possibly, or how will I do that? Or what will that even look like? My brain is trying really hard to figure out how, and that's a part of the metacognitive journaling.
Where you untangle all the sentences in your head that are saying things like, I have to do X, Y, and Z, or, the only way is this specific way. The next part of it is success journaling. This one's still tricky for me. I, you can hear me talking [00:24:00] slower right now. I'm thinking this through. How is this really helping me get to my goal?
Well, I'll tell you how because as soon as I actually hit stop on the recording of this podcast. I know, I know, 'cause I can feel it right now. I can feel it in my body that this podcast was exactly what I wanted to say to you today. I didn't know this was exactly how it was gonna shake down until the words are coming out of my mouth.
And this has nothing to do with my podcast studio. It has nothing to do with the circumstances, and it has everything to do with me being me. This recording of the podcast, this renovated rejuvenated Get Your Goal podcast has been such a gift to me and I truly hope that it's a gift to you too. I truly hope that a little bit of real time information watching me
muddle through the way that I [00:25:00] do and sharing my concepts with you from a place of, I'm not trying to hammer something home. I'm not super polished. I didn't write it all down first, and these are the three ways, but just talking to you, human to human. I hope that this feels as amazing for you as it does for me, because I want you
to have this feeling too. Right now in my body, I feel like the most me, even though I'm sitting in my minivan, even though I'm not in Blossom's chair, I don't have my neon light softly cozily lighting up my little tiny room. It has nothing to do with the circumstances and everything to do with me. You can feel like the most you
on your way to your goal, and after you've gotten it. You can, when you [00:26:00] finish getting your goal, be a person who feels like you. And here's the thing. Sometimes on your way there, you're gonna feel exactly like not you. You're gonna feel like the shadow version of you. You're gonna feel like the most constricted, the most restricted, the most yucky version of you.
And that is information. That is really important information. You've heard me say it before, I'm gonna say it again. I will probably say it every single podcast. It is most effective when I am talking about exercise, but honestly, it's most effective everywhere. I am a person who deeply believes and does not judge myself for.
I am the kind of person who has to do something quote unquote wrong. I have to go too far to know what's just right. I encourage you to [00:27:00] go too far to know what's right for you. I encourage you to break eggs on your way to making your omelet. I encourage you to do things that feel absolutely awful. What?
Yes, I encourage you to feel awful on your way to your goal so that once you have it, you really deeply know what feels good. Uncover all those parts of getting to your goal that you don't wanna be doing after you've finished getting it, and really, really lovingly untangle them in ways that work for you so that you can have your goal.
Not just get it, but be the person who. My friend, I'm so glad you came along with me today for [00:28:00] this ride. Thank you so much, every time I post a podcast, for listening. I'll talk to you again soon.
