Welcome to the Get Your Goal podcast, the place where ambitious, deep-thinking women chart their own course, exploring the mindset, emotions, and daily practices that help you get your goal your way by being unapologetically you. I'm your host, Pahla B, master certified life and goal coach and creator of the Daily 3 journaling framework.
On this podcast, you'll learn to navigate your unique path to success by using the most powerful tool in your kit, your own internal compass. Ready for the adventure? Let's go. Hello, friend. I have a nugget of a podcast for you today about how to get out of frustration and into progress on your big goals.
I was thinking about this this morning. It is quite early in the morning, and I really wanted to offer you something very simple, which is not necessarily going to be easy, like always. Mindset work, the work that we do around here, [00:01:00] is not, is not fast or easy, but it can be simple, and that's why I wanted to offer you this today, that the path to getting out of frustration and into progress is two steps that can be quite simple.
Step number one is to recognize that you're frustrated, and I know that sounds really funny, but honestly, I would venture to say that most of us, most of the time, are walking around low-grade frustrated at just about everything. This was one of the biggest revelations to me when I... Not even when I first started doing mindset work, I'd been doing it for a while, when I realized that I used to be angry all the time.
All the time. I mean, 24/7. And it was really shocking to me because it was just me living my life, and I didn't realize how frustrated I was at every single thing all the [00:02:00] time until I started moving myself out of frustration. So I offer this to you as step one, because right now it might just be your status quo to be frustrated a little bit, or a lotta bit, about so many things that maybe you don't even notice it.
So let's notice it. You might be frustrated at... Well, I'm gonna say everything, but specifically, you might be frustrated with what's going on with your goals. You might be frustrated at your lack of progress. You might be frustrated at your lack of follow-through. You might be frustrated with your procrastination.
You might be frustrated with how you feel all the time. You might be frustrated about a lot of different things. And so what I will offer you next as step two is to ask yourself a genuinely curious question. That phrase genuinely curious is very important because, [00:03:00] because if you are like me, and I think you are, it's why you're here on the podcast, you ask yourself questions all the time, but they're not genuinely curious.
You ask yourself questions like, "What in the world is wrong with me? Why is everything in my life so hard? Why am I so stupid?" You ask yourself questions that- On paper, when you read a question, it could be curious or it could just be you raking yourself over the coals, as I did so very, very often when I was frustrated all the time.
I will offer you that for me, I had, I had very little access to genuinely curious questions when I very first started on my mindset journey. The thing that helped me was hearing other questions. It's actually why I have structured my business the way I have. I have free questions for you in the form [00:04:00] of the Daily 3 journaling framework.
There are essentially three questions that you can ask yourself every day that can help get you out of frustration with genuine curiosity. Those three questions, briefly, and you can go watch the free masterclass to learn more about this. There's a link in the show notes, the description, wherever you're watching or listening.
But essentially, the three questions are, what do I want? And really hearing that as a genuinely curious question. You hear how my voice changes. I mean, if you're not reading the transcript, but you hear how my voice changes when we sink into genuine curiosity as opposed to a frustrated question. The, "Ugh, what do I want?"
is very different from, "What do I want? What do I want in this situation? What do I want for myself? What do I want with my big goal?" The second question is some [00:05:00] version of, what do I think that's stopping me right now? This is a, th- this can be a tricky question in that there is that moment that you will need to focus to come out of your frustration and really hear that what you are thinking is what's creating the frustration for you as opposed to the situation, the circumstances, your life, et cetera.
Genuine curiosity takes you up and out of your situation so that you can see it metacognitively. And then the third question that you can ask yourself is some version of, what if I actually am getting the progress that I desire right now? Now, that one can be tricky. It often is, for me, the trickiest of the three questions that I offer with The Daily 3.
But here's the thing about [00:06:00] genuinely curious questions. It stops frustration in its tracks when it puts your mind towards looking for some evidence of progress. Often, when we feel frustrated, we are simply looking for, not on purpose, don't hear this wrong, you are unintentionally looking for evidence that things are going wrong.
A genuinely curious question sets your mind to finding evidence of the opposite Now here's the thing. Again, when I very first started my mindset journey, I had no access to a genuinely curious question inside my own brain. It's why I, I went out, and at the time, gosh, at the time, I don't know that I found any free resources.
I used to buy all kinds of journaling prompts. I cannot tell you how many, [00:07:00] like, physical books of journal prompts I own and how many digital products I have purchased over the years. Oh my gosh, I'm, uh... Sorry, I'm adding them up in my head. I'm thinking way back, like way, way, way back in, like, the early '90s when I was kind of journaling and also not great at journaling yet.
I mean, if you've, if you've heard my story about how I have journaled over the years, and I honestly can't tell you which podcast it was, otherwise I would have a link for you. If I can remember, I'll put a link for you in the show notes. If I can't, it was somewhat recently, I was talking about my journaling journey and how there were years where I wanted to, but I wasn't great at it, so I didn't know what to do.
Those were the times when I would buy journaling books to help me. It's why, again, I've structured my business the way I have. I have the free questions. I have the [00:08:00] easy-to-access and a small amount of money questions. I have guided journaling experiences, is what I call them, that offer you, like, 30 days of questions to kind of get yourself out of frustration and into the kind of progress that you can really see towards your big goals with genuinely curious questions.
And then for me, the next step, again, which is how I structure my own business, was getting somebody else to ask me questions. There have been so many times in my life where I did not feel like I had the access to genuine curiosity, where the frustration was just so strong that it was simplest, not necessarily easiest, because again, when somebody asks you a genuinely curious question, I mean, the next step is to answer it and to really hear what you are saying to yourself and to feel the feeling of what you are saying to [00:09:00] yourself.
By the way, that's step three and step four. Step one, let me, let me summarize this for you, 'cause this is a nugget. Step one is to recognize that you're frustrated. Step two is to ask yourself a genuinely curious question from whatever source, someplace free, someplace low cost, someplace that's a membership or a coach or a something.
Ask yourself a genuinely curious question. And then, my friend, step three Actually hear the answer. And step four, feel the feeling of that answer, because that will lead you to step five, letting it go. Now, I know everybody says, "Oh, just let go of your frustration," but it's, again, it's got four steps to it.
It's not just as easy as telling yourself, "I'm going to stop being frustrated." I was just about to tell you, no, you won't, and I'm trying to decide if that's my actual answer, because I [00:10:00] don't wanna just shut you down and say there's no other way to get out of frustration. I believe that this is the path out of frustration.
Rather than just shutting yourself down, actually ask a question, hear the answer, feel the feeling, and let it go. My friend, I always help that this is... hope that this is helpful for you. Specifically, when we do these nugget podcasts, what I want for you is to make this so simple that it's actionable right now.
It's not something that you simply think about and mull over and ponder and stay in your head and in your frustration, but actually move forward with perhaps right now. [00:11:00] Go watch the masterclass, ask yourself genuine questions, hear the answers, feel the feelings, and my friend, move forward into progress with your big goals.
Thank you so much for listening. I'll talk to you again soon. No matter where you are on your goal-getting journey, I'm here to help. Get started by watching the free Daily 3 Masterclass to learn the simple journaling framework that rewires your brain for success. Move forward with confidence at your pace with one of my goal-specific guided journaling experiences.
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